You were the kid who was "so smart but just needed to apply themselves."
You've read all the productivity books. Downloaded all the apps. Started all the planners (usually in January, abandoned by February).
You know what you're supposed to do. You just can't make yourself do it - and then you spiral into a shame hangover that makes everything feel worse.
You're not lazy. You're not broken. You have an ADHD brain in a world that wasn't built for you.
And that's exactly what we work on together.
You can hyper-focus for six hours on something interesting but can't respond to a simple email for 3 weeks
Your emotions hit like a freight train and you've said things - or done things - that you deeply regret
You have a brain that won’t shut off & fires ideas at you like a popcorn machine, but you struggle to follow through on them
You're hard on yourself for not being further along - in your career, your relationships, your life in general
You've tried "just trying harder" and spoiler: it doesn't f*cking work
If you're nodding along... yip, we'd work well together.
I was diagnosed with ADHD at 36. By then I'd already spent decades thinking I was the problem.
I'm a certified coach, I've been doing this work for years, I have a podcast with 170+ episodes on adult ADHD & I've been featured in a New Zealand ADHD documentary. But honestly? The most important thing I bring to our sessions is that I get it from the inside.
This isn't therapy (I'll refer you on if that's what you need). It's practical, real-talk coaching that helps you understand why your brain works the way it does - and build strategies that actually work with it instead of against it.
We work on emotional regulation. On follow-through. On stopping the cycle of "great plan → forget it exists → beat myself up → repeat." On building a life that fits your actual brain, not the brain society told you to have.
And if it isn't already obvious - I love this work. ADHD brains are my absolute favourite thing to nerd out on & the people who have them are my favourite humans! I don't say that to be cute. I say it because it's true, & you'll feel it the second we get on a call.
* Currently fully booked - see below for how to register your interest *
4 x 50-minute sessions per month + email support between sessions | Zoom
This is the only way I work with 1:1 clients - and there's a reason for that.
One-off sessions are fine for a quick win, but ADHD isn't a quick-fix situation. Real change happens when you have consistent support, someone in your corner week to week, and enough time to actually implement stuff instead of just talking about it.
Here's what you get:
4 x weekly 50-minute sessions on Zoom
Email support between sessions — because your brain doesn't wait until next Tuesday to have a crisis
A coach who genuinely gives a shit about your progress
Month-to-month. No lock-in. Cancel anytime (though most people stick around because it's actually working).
$900 NZD/month · includes GST
Currently Fully Booked — But Here's What To Do
I'm not keeping a formal waitlist right now, but I do occasionally have spots open up - and when they do, I fill them fast.
xena@navigatingadultadhd.com with the subject line "Coaching Enquiry" and tell me a little bit about where you're at and what you're hoping to work on.
Not sure if coaching is right for you yet? Check out the Adulting with ADHD program or my online resources - both are great places to start while you wait.
"I've finally stopped the constant frustration and procrastination. I've found an organisation system that works for me, and my frustration is so much better. It's honestly the best thing I've done for myself!"
— Ryan
"I now have fantastic strategies to control my emotions and a deeper understanding of myself and my ADHD."
— Deanne
"Before this, I felt like a complete failure at everything. I was overwhelmed with everything. I couldn't make decisions. Nothing has ever helped me as much as this coaching did. Xena really gets it."
— Tracy