5 Reasons why Adulting with ADHD is built different
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1. ADHD-Friendly Tools That Actually Work
Made for your brain - simple, doable, effective.
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2. Real Support From Someone Who Gets It
No judgment. No shame. Just someone who speaks your language.
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3. Zero Fluff - Only What Works in Real Life
If itâs in here, itâs because it helps you get sh*t done & feel better.
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4. Real Science, Not Pop-Psychology
Finally understand your brain so you can stop fighting yourself (& the world).
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5. Build a Life That Fits YouÂ
No more âtry harderâ BS. Learn to thrive with the brain you've got.
I'll give you a powerful toolkit to help youÂ
THRIVE with ADHD so that you can finallyÂ
feel better & get sh*t done
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- Courses & Workshops with science backed tools
- Workbooks to apply what you're learning
- Group Coaching to get support when you need it
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It's all you need & more to finally get clarity, increase your self-confidence & take control of your life.Â
Allllll at a gloriously generous price.Â
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It's time to do things the ADHD way.
A smarter, kinder, better way of living !
Emotional Regulation for Adults with ADHD
If youâre tired of spiralling, snapping, shutting down or feeling like your emotions run the show - this course will change everything.
Inside, youâll learn why ADHDers struggle with managing their emotions & how to actually regulate your emotions (aka calm down) using simple, science-backed tools that actually work for ADHD brains.
This is the stuff we should have learned in school - practical, ADHD-friendly tools you can use in real life when the irritation hits, when the overwhelm spikes, or when everything feels âtoo much.â
If you want calmer days, gentler reactions & way less emotional chaos⌠youâre going to love this.
Priced at $497.00
WTF is ADHD
If youâve ever wondered âWhy am I like this?â or felt broken, lazy or inconsistent - this course will be a breath of fresh air.
Inside, youâll finally understand how your ADHD brain works, why it works this way & what that means for your motivation, focus, emotions, energy & everyday life.
Youâll learn the ADHD basics like - how dopamine works, why executive function feels so hard & the real reasons behind procrastination, forgetfulness and overwhelm.
Most importantly, youâll discover simple, practical ways to work with your brain (not against it) so life feels easier, lighter & way less like a constant uphill battle.
Priced at $197.00
Self-coaching to work with your ADHD brain
Coaching changed my life & the ability to self-coach is the greatest tool we have as adults with ADHD.
By learning how to coach ourselves we are able to:
- Â Change what we think
- Â Change how we feel
- Â Change what we do & donât do
⌠Basically change our entire lives!
I often wonder why I had to learn trigonometry at school. Because not once in my adult life has that ever come in handy. But this⌠THIS RIGHT HERE is the secret to the universe. And I wish we were taught it in schools!
Priced at $297.00
How to Heal from & Prevent ADHD Burnout
If youâve been running on fumes, forcing yourself to âkeep up,â or wondering why you canât just push through like everyone else⌠this course is your reset button.
Inside, youâll learn why ADHDers burn out so easily (hint: itâs not your fault), how to plug the holes in your energy bucket & what it actually takes to rebuild your mental, emotional & physical reserves.
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This isnât about doing more - itâs about finally giving your sparkly brain what it needs to function, thrive & feel good.
If youâre tired of being tired⌠this is where your recovery begins.Â
Priced at $147.00
Improving Relationships
Whether itâs your partner, family, or coworkers - relationships can feel hard when youâve got ADHD.
In this class, we explore how to create happier, more connected relationships.
Youâll learn:
-  How to use the Relationship Pyramid đşÂ to prioritise where your energy goesÂ
-  What a âmanualâ is & how your unspoken expectations might be sabotaging your relationships
- Â How to create more connection
- The one relationship that changes EVERYTHING
Priced at $67.00
Living in Alignment with your Values
Ever get that âsomething doesnât sit rightâ feeling? Thatâs your values talking!
âKnowing your values is the ADHD life hack you didnât know you needed.âÂ
This workshop will help you uncover your core values & explain why you do what you do & how to make decisions that actually feel rightÂ
Youâll leave with clarity, confidence & a deeper understanding of yourself & the things that truly matter - so you can start living in a way that feels meaningful, not just âproductive.â
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Priced at $67.00
Managing RSD
If youâve ever spiralled after a text that said âwe need to talk,â replayed criticism on a loop, or felt crushed by even gentle feedback - Youâre likely experiencing RSD - Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria, one of the most emotionally intense (and misunderstood) parts of ADHD.
In this empowering, science-backed workshop, youâll learn whatâs really happening in your brain and body when RSD hits and how to regulate, soothe & recover.
This isnât about âtoughening upâ! Itâs about understanding your beautiful, sensitive brain and giving it what it needs when the RSD hits.
Priced at $67.00
Beating Procrastination
If youâve ever found yourself doing literally anything except the thing youâre supposed to do⌠this oneâs for you!
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We dig into whatâs really behind ADHD procrastination (spoiler: itâs not laziness or lack of willpower). Youâll learn how emotions drive what we do (and what we donât do!)Â .
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Weâll explore why our ADHD brains crave comfort, how to work with your dopamine system & by the end, youâll know how to stop waiting to âfeel readyâ & start taking action!Â
Priced at $67.00
Managing & Increasing Dopamine
The holy grail for ADHD brains đ
Weâll unpack how dopamine actually works & why it affects everything from focus to motivation to mood.
Youâll learn that not all dopamine is created equal & chasing the wrong kind creates LESS of it! And how to boost this magical, good-feeling brain chemical in simple, easy, natural ways!
Priced at $67.00
Using Chat GPT & AIÂ
Discover how tools like ChatGPT can save mental energy, reduce overwhelm & help you get sh*t done - especially when executive function isnât playing nice.
It's time to Make AI work for you! Including how to personalise it, teach it your preferences and get the most from it.
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 Priced at $67.00
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Total Value = $1500+
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Total Value = $500 +
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How to Feel BetterÂ
A mini course & workbook.Â
Emotional Regulation with EFT Tapping
How to use the Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT).
ADHDÂ Medication Guide & Tracker
A quick start guide to knowing what's working & what's not.
Stop treating yourself like an assh*le
Cultivating self-compassion with Rebecca Stark-Thornberry.
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PLUS...
đ Hack your Happy Chemicals
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đ My ADHD New Zealand Webinar Replays
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đ Slow Dopamine Activities ListÂ
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đ  Organising for the ADHD Home with Carrie Lagerstedt
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+Â Monthly Group Coaching Calls with Xena!!Â
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Total Value = $1500 +
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Here's what ADHDers are saying...
Adulting with ADHD
Courses, coaching, workbooks & resources to help you achieve your goals & feel better than ever⌠all at a âCanât Say No!â price!
$555
per year
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- Emotional Regulation for Adults with ADHD (usually $497)
- WTF is ADHD - Understand & Work with your brain (usually $197)
- How to coach yourself with ADHDÂ (usually $297)Â
- How to Heal from & Prevent ADHD Burnout (usually $147)
- Improving Relationships (usually $67)
- Living in Alignment with your Values (usually $67)
- Managing RSD - Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria (usually $67)
- Beating Procrastination (usually $67)Â
- Managing & Increasing Dopamine (usually $67)
- Using ChatGPT & AI for ADHD support (usually $67)
- Complete Library of Workbooks (valued at $500+)
- BONUS: How to feel better course (valued at $97)
- BONUS: Emotional Regulation with EFT Tapping (valued at $47)
- BONUS: ADHD Medication Tracker & Guide (valued at $27)
- BONUS: Organising for the ADHD Home  (valued at $67)Â
- BONUS: Cultivating self-compassion  (valued at $147) Â
- BONUS:Â Â Hack your Happy ChemicalsÂ
- BONUS:Â Â ADHD New Zealand Webinar Replays
- BONUS:Â Slow Dopamine Activities List
- BONUS: Private Facebook Community
- Monthly Group Coaching Calls with Xena (usually $1297)Â
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Total Value = $3500+Â
"The way Xena explains things, and how generously she shares her own experiences, makes everything feel both clear and deeply relatable. Itâs exactly the kind of support Iâve been looking for.â
~ Alina, Jodan
"Itâs not fluffy words. Itâs usable strategies that have completely changed my life."
~ Ian, United States
"Iâve tried psychiatrists, psychologists, courses -you name it. But nothing stuck. With Xena, the tools actually stay in my brain and I use them every day. Theyâre practical, real, and they work."
~ Belinda, New Zealand
This is FOR you if:Â
- You can afford the membership without putting yourself in financial stress
- You honour & respect boundaries
- You commit to doing the work and taking fresponsibility for your own success
This is NOT for you if:Â
- You find it hard to even navigate a computer or the internet
- You need 1:1 guidance
- You are offended by the use of swear words
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- I've helped hundreds of adults with ADHD to build self-trust, emotional resilience & actual life skills (the stuff thatâs way more useful than trigonometry!)
- I am proudly neurodivergent - sparkly brain & all and I GET what itâs like to live in this brain every day
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I make everything simple, doable & ADHD-friendly⌠with zero shame & lots of laughs
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Iâm a multi-certified coach + top podcast host whoâs been teaching this stuff for years
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I was featured in NZâs ADHD documentary ADHD: Not Just Hyper because Iâm obsessed with helping ADHDers thrive
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ADHDers are my favourite people & I am o-b-s-e-s-s-e-d with our brains!