Hi. I'm Xena. I've got ADHD too - diagnosed at 36, after a lifetime of "just try harder" & report cards that said "so much potential."
Cool. Super helpful. Cheers for that.
I'm an ADHD Coach, podcast host, crazy cat lady & someone who finally figured out how to work with her brain instead of constantly fighting it. Now I help other late-diagnosed adults do the same.
You're in the right place.
You're smart, capable & you know what you need to do.
You just... can't make yourself do it. Or you start it, lose it, forget it, avoid it, hyper-focus on something completely unrelated for six hours & then feel like absolute crap about yourself.
You're exhausted from masking. Overwhelmed by the stuff everyone else seems to manage just fine.
Convinced that if you could just get your sh*t together, everything would be different.
Here's the thing: you don't need to get your sh*t together.
You need tools that actually work for the brain you have.
That's exactly what I help you with.
Group coaching + courses with tools, & a community of people who get it.
Personalised support for your specific, beautifully chaotic brain. No shame, no judgment, just real progress.
Workbooks & AI tools built for ADHD brains. Practical & ready to use immediately.
🎧 Podcast
Real talk about ADHD. No toxic positivity, no "have you tried a planner?" Just honest, science-backed, genuinely useful conversations about what it's actually like to live with an ADHD brain.
Top 5% globally. We even won a Bronze Award for Best Health & Wellbeing Podcast - which is very exciting and I definitely didn't ugly cry when I found out. Listened to on walks, in cars, and definitely while doing something else at the same time - because same.
I got my ADHD diagnosis at 36.
It was the missing piece I didn't know I'd been looking for my entire life.
Before that? I struggled with anxiety, relationships, following through & constantly feeling like I was behind.
After my diagnosis I threw myself into figuring out how to actually thrive with ADHD - not just cope, not just survive - and I turned everything I learned into my coaching practice.
I've now coached hundreds of late-diagnosed adults. I host a top-ranked podcast. I was featured in the New Zealand documentary ADHD: Not Just Hyper (I cry twice in it & I somehow managed not to swear once!).
I became a coach because it saved my life. And I genuinely believe it will change yours too.
This helped me stop going in circles and finally take control of my ADHD. I’ve found a system that works for me, and my frustration is so much better. It’s honestly the best thing I’ve done for myself!"
"Before this, I felt like a complete failure at everything. I couldn’t make decisions. I was just all over the place. Nothing has ever helped me as much as this coaching did. Xena really gets it and these sessions have been invaluable."
"Thanks to this Coaching with Xena, I now have fantastic strategies to control my emotions and a deeper understanding of myself and my ADHD."
Take a look at the symptoms list and find out if what you've been experiencing your whole life finally has a name.
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