#164 ADHD & People Pleasing: Why It’s So Hard to Say No

Are you a people-pleaser… or just terrified of letting people down?

Hi! I’m Xena & I am a recovering people-pleaser.
I cared so much about what other people thought of me & would prioritise the needs & desires of my friends, family or colleagues, above my own. 

And by doing this I was telling myself that my needs & what I wanted weren’t as important... Further adding to my insecurities & lack of self-worth. 
 
Overtime I became a chameleon - I didn’t know who I was or what I really liked because I was always going along with everyone else.
 
People pleasing is a pattern of thinking & doing things that prioritise what other people think over what we think - Sacrificing pleasing yourself in order to please others. 
 
 In this episode you'll learn: 

• Why ADHDers people please
• How this pattern of behaviour impacts our ADHD symptoms
• How we've got the idea of "people pleasing" all wrong
• Where people pleasing comes from in our brain & how to change it 

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